I don’t know about you, but I’m sick of all the BS flying around at super sonic speeds about how if you just think positive, meditate, and act (though the action part is hard to hear in all the commotion of “just think positive“) then everything in life will be peachy and easy. I’m fed up to my eyeballs with it!
Life isn’t kisses, sweet smelling smores, and cool summer breezes — those things can be found in it. Life is a freaking war. One you better suit up for if you don’t want to end up bruised and broken on the cruel cold floor of your existence.
Life is not easy.
It wasn’t meant to be.
Maybe this isn’t what you want to hear. Good thing you’re reading it then. But I do hope you’re sitting down because I’m going to repeat it: LIFE ISN’T EASY! Anyone who says otherwise is selling something.
But here’s the good news: the stuff that means the most in our lives, that really matters, is really hard. And that is what makes it awesome. That’s what makes it worth it. That’s the stuff of life. And thinking positively, having positive expectations for those good things, and trusting that good things happen, will help draw to you those things you desire. Sometimes it does seem easy when you get it, but sometimes it is very much the opposite and those things we want can take a very painfully long time in arriving if they arrive at all.
That means that there’s going to be times when you’re going to utterly break down because you can’t take one more step, when the only prayer you can pray is “Please be with me today. Just be with me,” and you’re either going to cry or be dried out of tears. That’s okay. It’s okay to feel the way you feel. You can’t have the good with out the bad. The happy without the sad. The dark without the light. The weak without the might. But it is better to pass through these hardships because on the other side is peace of mind and what you truly want.
It’s not easy. You have to stick to your guns. And be willing to fail. It’s hard, but it is worth it.
Stick to it. Dream of it. Fight for it. Enjoy all the good that comes into your life, big and little, including the people that help the good happen. Be grateful. My mom said that as she was growing up her mom would often take them camping. Before they left they always had a prayer and asked for a safe journey. But when they came home, they never gave thanks. Remember to give thanks for the good you receive: before it arrives, as you receive it, and after it comes. And thank God for the bumps and bruises too. The fight is the point after all, just like happiness along the journey.
Which reminds me. There is happiness in life and when you reach that other side you’ll feel the happiness too. It may not be the happiness you dream of — it probably won’t feel like it either; however, it’ll be something much more rewarding like an unexpected plate of cookies on your doorstep. Wonderful, gooey, and yummy.